That's a hard question to answer. I would think that the first step would be to let your roomie know what exactly is upsetting the household. Not to make judgement on his drinking but on the actions that result from it.
Maybe that way he/she won't feel so personally attacked, although, if they know they have a problem, they may act out agressively from their own feelings of defensiveness.
You have a right, though, to ask that your needs be acknowledged and met as roommates, no matter the circumstances. Good luck.
Your question can be related to our class discussion today about self censorship. Why is it hard for you to address this issue with him or her? Is it you don’t want to hurt his/her feeling? (ethics) Or are you trying to avoid further problems (fear)? [Sorry! I couldn’t help myself and threw that in.] What do you do? You point it out. It may be a hard issue to discuss but it is an issue that can’t be ignored. My auntie passed away from complications to her liver due to her alcoholism. Besides the health factor, people’s character changes when they drink; sometimes it is a challenge not to engage in a fight with them. I feel for you. It’s not easy but you must speak up if you want your living situation to improve.
um, you could totally be like... dude, quit being a jackass? Or, maybe if he doesnt listen to that, search google and find a rehab and schedule an intervention?
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That's a hard question to answer. I would think that the first step would be to let your roomie know what exactly is upsetting the household. Not to make judgement on his drinking but on the actions that result from it.
Maybe that way he/she won't feel so personally attacked, although, if they know they have a problem, they may act out agressively from their own feelings of defensiveness.
You have a right, though, to ask that your needs be acknowledged and met as roommates, no matter the circumstances. Good luck.
Your question can be related to our class discussion today about self censorship. Why is it hard for you to address this issue with him or her? Is it you don’t want to hurt his/her feeling? (ethics) Or are you trying to avoid further problems (fear)? [Sorry! I couldn’t help myself and threw that in.] What do you do? You point it out. It may be a hard issue to discuss but it is an issue that can’t be ignored. My auntie passed away from complications to her liver due to her alcoholism. Besides the health factor, people’s character changes when they drink; sometimes it is a challenge not to engage in a fight with them. I feel for you. It’s not easy but you must speak up if you want your living situation to improve.
um, you could totally be like... dude, quit being a jackass? Or, maybe if he doesnt listen to that, search google and find a rehab and schedule an intervention?
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